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When you do what you don’t want to do

 Romans 7:15-25a & Matthew 11:16-19, 25-30


There’s a story I heard once about a man who bought a treadmill. He was determined to get fit. He told everyone about it and watched videos about it. He even bought special running shoes. But the treadmill sat in the corner of his living room, quietly gathering dust. Every time he walked past it, he felt a little pang of guilt. He wanted to use it. He meant to use it. He planned to use it. But somehow… he didn’t.

One day his friend came round, looked at the treadmill, and said, “Ah yes - the world’s most expensive clothes hanger.”

The man laughed, but he also sighed. “I don’t understand myself,” he said. “I want to do this. I really do. But I just… don’t.”

And I think Paul would have nodded sympathetically at that moment. Because in Romans, Paul describes something we all probably recognise, that strange inner conflict between what we want to do and what we actually do. He says, “I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” It’s one of the most honest, human passages in the whole Bible. Paul isn’t pretending to be perfect. He’s saying, “I struggle. I fail. I get it wrong. And I don’t always understand myself.”

It’s strangely comforting, isn’t it? Even Paul, the great apostle, the missionary, the theologian, knew what it was to feel torn inside.

Paul’s words feel like they could have been written yesterday. We know what it is to want to be patient… and then snap. To want to be generous… and then hold back. To want to pray… and then get distracted. To want to forgive… and then cling to the hurt.

We are complicated people!

Paul describes this inner tug‑of‑war as “another law at war within me.” It’s not that he doesn’t know what is right, he does. He delights in God’s law. He wants to follow it. But he finds himself pulled in other directions.

And then he says something that feels like a cry from the heart: “Wretched man that I am! Who will rescue me?”

It’s not despair. It’s honesty. It’s the moment when someone finally admits, “I can’t fix myself. I need help.”

And that’s where the gospel begins.

Because Paul doesn’t leave us in that cry. He immediately answers it: “Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!”

Paul’s hope is not in his own strength, but in Christ’s rescue.

That brings us to the Gospel reading, one of the most tender invitations Jesus ever gives.

“Come to me, all you that are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

It’s striking that Jesus doesn’t say, “Come to me, all you who are sorted out.” Or, “Come to me, all you who have conquered your inner battles.” Or, “Come to me, all you who have finally got your spiritual treadmill working.”

He says, “Come to me, all you who are weary.”

Weary from trying or failing or pretending or from carrying burdens you were never meant to carry alone.

Jesus speaks to the very place Paul describes, the place where we feel torn, tired, frustrated with ourselves. And He says, “Come. Rest. Learn from me. My yoke is easy. My burden is light.”

It’s a beautiful contrast. Paul says, “I feel captive.” Jesus says, “I will give you rest.”

When Jesus says, “Take my yoke upon you,” He isn’t offering a heavier burden. He’s offering partnership. He’s saying, “Walk with me and Learn from me. I will carry the weight you cannot.”

Before Jesus gives that invitation, He describes a generation that doesn’t know what it wants. He says they’re like children in the marketplace complaining that nothing suits them. John the Baptist was too serious. Jesus was too joyful. John fasted - they criticised him. Jesus ate with sinners - they criticised Him too.

It’s a picture of spiritual confusion - people who don’t recognise God’s voice even when it’s right in front of them.

And yet Jesus doesn’t respond with anger. He responds with gentleness. He thanks the Father for revealing truth to “infants”, to those who are humble enough to receive it. And then He opens His arms wide and says, “Come to me.”

It’s incredible. Jesus meets criticism with compassion. He meets confusion with clarity. He meets weariness with welcome.

So what does that mean for us - I think it means at least three things.

First: We can be honest with God.

Romans gives us permission to admit our struggles. God is not shocked by our contradictions. He already knows them. And He meets us in them. The gospel is not for perfect people, it’s for real people.

Second: Jesus offers rest, not pressure.

Many people think faith is about trying harder. But Jesus says the opposite. He invites us to lay down burdens, not pick up new ones. His yoke is easy because He carries the weight.

Third: We are invited to walk with Jesus, not impress Him.

The Christian life is not a performance. It’s a relationship. We learn from Jesus by walking beside Him, not by trying to prove ourselves to Him.

If you feel like Paul today, torn, frustrated, unsure of yourself, remember this: Jesus is not waiting for you to sort yourself out. He is inviting you as you are.

If you feel weary, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, remember this: Jesus offers rest, not demands.

If you feel burdened, by guilt, by expectations, by life itself remember this: Jesus carries what you cannot.

And if you feel distant from God, remember this: He has already moved towards you. He has already opened the door. He has already spoken the words: “Come to me.”

Let’s go back to the man with the treadmill. One day, after months of walking past it, he finally stepped on. Not because he felt guilty or wanted to impress anyone. But because he realised something simple - he didn’t have to run a marathon. He just had to take one step.

And then another. And then another.

Faith is like that. We don’t begin with perfection. We begin with a step. A step towards honesty. A step towards Jesus. A step towards rest.

Paul’s cry, “Who will rescue me?” is answered in Jesus’ invitation, “Come to me.”

One cry. One invitation. One Saviour.

So today, remember this:

• You are not alone in any inner struggle.

• Jesus meets you in your weariness, not your strength.

• His yoke is easy because He carries the weight.

• His rest is real, and His welcome is wide.

This is the gospel, the hope Paul clings to.

This is the gentleness Jesus offers. This is the life we are invited into, not a treadmill of spiritual effort, but a walk beside the One who carries us. Amen.


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